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The Ghost of My Father by Scott Berkun

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From bestselling author Scott Berkun comes this powerful new book, funded by hundreds of kickstarter supporters.

It’s a personal story about his failed relationship with his father, and how his family was torn apart  in 2012.

The book explores the meaning of family, through personal stories about Scott’s struggles to connect with his father, in the past and the present.

It’s an achingly personal memoir of loss, love and the hope of transformation by searching through the past.

It’s a book for anyone struggling with their identity in their family and seeking a bright path through dark times.

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@debbieblox Disrupting the Pink Aisle

Toys R’ Us and the Power of Pink—or Purple—“when I feel like it”.

In 2006 I wrote a paper about gender in toys, “Toys R Us—Engendering Children Are Us” for my UW Sociology of Family course.

Now it’s 2014 and we’re demolishing gender stereotypes and disrupting the pink aisle…

Sterling realized she was one of the only female engineering majors at Stanford University.

The Story of GoldieBlox | Cassie Jaye from Focus Forward Films on Vimeo.

“When Debbie Sterling set out to create GoldieBlox engineering toys for girls, she was hoping to sell much more than a product. She was hoping to inspire a movement that could eventually change the gender ratio in the engineering industry,” reports  from the Dallas Business Journal. Continue reading

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Microsoft: On Karma and Protecting the Innocent

“Knowing and having faith that the system … that might be one of the additional super powers, that quite frankly, that women who don’t ask for raises have… because that’s good karma. It will come back.”—Nadella, at the 2014 Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing conference

Publishing today in response to Microsoft’s CEO Nadella’s perspective of the super hero powers of women like me who don’t ask for raises.

Bad Karma Coming Out of the Closet

I treated this situation as confidentially as I could, to the extent possible, as asked, for as long as I possibly could. I think I did pretty well, no?

Photo credit @DotBen “SpunkyGidget at Mix ’06

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Angela @ Microsoft

I never asked for a raise, but I did get sexually harassed at Microsoft.

“Knowing and having faith that the system … that might be one of the additional super powers, that quite frankly, that women who don’t ask for raises have… because that’s good karma. It will come back.”—Nadella, at the 2014 Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing conference

“I’m absolutely reeling,” said Rachel Sklar, who in 2010 founded Change the Ratio, a group focused on increasing visibility for women in tech. “He put to words the massive fear women have in asking for raises and told them to trust in a system that is proven to be broken.”

Nadella also said he would “not fall for the crutch of the supply-side excuse” of women in tech, and that Microsoft was attempting to improve, despite recently released Microsoft diversity numbers that were similarly dismal to most tech companies. He advised women to be persistent in breaking into the industry.

I wonder what the percentage was when I was at Microsoft?

Wanna hire me? I’m already in the industry.

Here’s my history, and my resume.

I never asked for a raise, but I did get sexually harassed by my manager at Microsoft.

I was so nice. I kept my mouth shut, and celebrated the day that I could no longer sue my former employer. Maybe it would feel like life would move on?

But it sucked year over year to find out on LinkedIn that HE was still there.

I never asked for a raise at Microsoft.

And they had the audacity to tell me that my performance was not affected by the manager who—THEY FOUND—sexually harassed me the entire time I reported to him.

Today I’m tearing through boxes of old memories to find that memo from Microsoft HR.

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The Funky Geezer Show by Carl Miller Photos

Funky Geezer

Woody Williams as NoDa's the Funky Geezer
Woody Williams as NoDa’s the Funky Geezer

So proud of our local NoDa Evening Muse and Facebook favorite Woody Williams the “Funky Geezer“, “America’s Got Talent” and YouTube music comedian.

Grandpa can shred, but Woody Williams as the Funky Geezer is more than any one man band you’ve ever seen.

See www.funkygeezer.com for more on Woody Williams performing as The Funky Geezer Show.

 

Photos: Carl Miller Photos, and Woody Williams.

Satya Nadella at Anita Borg Institute 2014 Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing

Nadella at 2014 Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing

“It’s not really about asking for the raise, but knowing and having faith that the system will actually give you the right raises as you go along…That, I think, might be one of the additional superpowers that, quite frankly, women who don’t ask for a raise have. Because that’s good karma. It’ll come back because somebody’s going to know that’s the kind of person that I want to trust. That’s the kind of person that I want to really give more responsibility to. And in the long-term efficiency, things catch up.” — Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella

I don’t believe in karma—”good karma” has never caught up with me.

Genetic Variations in the Human Cannabinoid Receptor Gene Are Associated with Happiness

Abstract

Happiness has been viewed as a temporary emotional state (e.g., pleasure) and a relatively stable state of being happy (subjective happiness level).

As previous studies demonstrated that individuals with high subjective happiness level rated their current affective states more positively when they experience positive events, these two aspects of happiness are interrelated.

According to a recent neuroimaging study, the cytosine to thymine single-nucleotide polymorphism of the human cannabinoid receptor 1 gene is associated with sensitivity to positive emotional stimuli.

Thus, we hypothesized that our genetic traits, such as the human cannabinoid receptor 1 genotypes, are closely related to the two aspects of happiness.

In Experiment 1, 198 healthy volunteers were used to compare the subjective happiness level between cytosine allele carriers and thymine-thymine carriers of the human cannabinoid receptor 1 gene.

In Experiment 2, we used positron emission tomography with 20 healthy participants to compare the brain responses to positive emotional stimuli of cytosine allele carriers to that of thymine-thymine carriers.

Compared to thymine-thymine carriers, cytosine allele carriers have a higher subjective happiness level. Regression analysis indicated that the cytosine allele is significantly associated with subjective happiness level.

The positive mood after watching a positive film was significantly higher for the cytosine allele carriers compared to the thymine-thymine carriers.

Positive emotion-related brain region such as the medial prefrontal cortex was significantly activated when the cytosine allele carriers watched the positive film compared to the thymine-thymine carriers.

Thus, the human cannabinoid receptor 1 genotypes are closely related to two aspects of happiness. Compared to thymine-thymine carriers, the cytosine allele carriers of the human cannabinoid receptor 1 gene, who are sensitive to positive emotional stimuli, exhibited greater magnitude positive emotions when they experienced positive events and had a higher subjective happiness level.

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Dr. Nina Burrowes on Sexual Abuse, Questions You've Never Had the Chance to Ask on www.ninaburrowes.com

The “Normal” Sex Offender

I have encountered the sex offender who isn’t ready to admit that he’s a sex offender on more than one occasion.

He’s the “normal” guy—charming.

In this video psychologist Dr. @NinaBurrowes explains one of the reasons why sex offenders are able to get away with their crimes and shares some information about sex offenders that you’ve probably never heard before… the video skips to the “second type” she describes which is the “normal guy” sex offender.

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Love my morning cup @SmellyCatCoffee

Cathy’s son RJ roasts Smelly Cat’s beans on a vintage red-and-gold Probat coffee roaster that weighs close to a ton.

I was thrilled when Kyle recently served me my very first cappuccino in a proper cup—I’ve been waiting for that moment since I’d arrived back home in Charlotte!

artificially intelligent, naturally beautiful, divinely designed, connected + just crazy enough.