“Going off the grid.”

Lately, there’s a been a trend I’ve seen in my social circle that has been on great concern to me. It started with just one friend who, rightfully so, wanted to distance himself from social discord and hence decided to distance himself from those related to the angst.

But then I started to see others start to do the same. "Going off the grid" is a virus spreading between once connected friends in the Twitter universe. My pal, Sean Bonner, recently posted about why "Qwitter is bad for everyone" ironically around the same time as I started to observe this phenomenon. Now, as I observe it, this going off the grid and unfollowing of friends really has nothing to do with Qwitter, but Sean’s observations remain the same—

"An act as simple and common as deleting an old e-mail has now sparked feelings of resentment…The truth is there are a million reasons someone could stop following someone else on twitter, the majority of which are totally harmless and innocent".

What’s missing however is what the appropriate reaction should be. If we are to call ourselves friends, those intimately tied together at the first level of this social circle (excluding those from the imagined community) then it behooves us to act in accordance with that tradition. When you have issue with a friend, should you not address them directly with concern? Talking serves to strengthen relationships and fortify the ties that bind us together.

Instead, it seems as though most take the approach of fair weather friends.

And the weather is turning colder in San Francisco.


One thought on ““Going off the grid.”

  1. I don’t consider anyone a friend outside of meeting them and interacting on a regular basis in person. So followers of the digital kind can come and go and won’t hurt my feelings any.

    It’s all about personality I suppose.

    Even if a “friend” did discontinue to follow me I really wouldn’t raise a brow unless they joined that with not talking to me on the phone, txt, IM, etc.

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