Great minds discuss ideas;
Average minds discuss events;
Small minds discuss people.
— Eleanor Roosevelt
I’ve had my fill of mean people lately. People who slander, defame, and focus their energy on ruining the lives of people.
“Because they are mean is no reason why I should be.
I hate such things, and though I think I’ve a right to be hurt,
I don’t intend to show it.” — Louisa May Alcott, Little Women
I do not believe in retaliation, I believe in love.
My friends have been harassed for several years, having the misfortune of moving into a house on a block with neighbors who are like some nightmare story.
“I want to make sure that you are safe
and aware of what happens
when you start getting involved
with police issues like a restraining order…”
This is an open letter to those people, this is your warning—
I also wanted to extend a thank you note to Officer Thompson of the San Francisco Police, Park Station for educating me on the in’s and out’s of psychological harassment and privacy rights in San Francisco.
Do Unto Others
“There’s trouble ahead when you live only for the approval of others, saying what flatters them, doing what indulges them. Popularity contests are not truth contests—look how many scoundrel preachers were approved by your ancestors! Your task is to be true, not popular.
“To you who are ready for the truth, I say this: Love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer for that person. If someone slaps you in the face, stand there and take it. If someone grabs your shirt, giftwrap your best coat and make a present of it. If someone takes unfair advantage of you, use the occasion to practice the servant life. No more tit-for-tat stuff. Live generously.
“Here is a simple rule of thumb for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you; then grab the initiative and do it for them! If you only love the lovable, do you expect a pat on the back? Run-of-the-mill sinners do that. If you only help those who help you, do you expect a medal? Garden-variety sinners do that. If you only give for what you hope to get out of it, do you think that’s charity? The stingiest of pawnbrokers does that.
“I tell you, love your enemies. Help and give without expecting a return. You’ll never—I promise—regret it. Live out this God-created identity the way our Father lives toward us, generously and graciously, even when we’re at our worst. Our Father is kind; you be kind.
“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. Don’t condemn those who are down; that hardness can boomerang. Be easy on people; you’ll find life a lot easier. Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity.”